This is the last article in a series about creating motivation and setting goals that are achievable. Now, get out something to take notes with and let’s get rolling!
Stop looking to the past to define who you are now, and who you are becoming
“I’ve never been able to stick to a workout program for more than a couple months.”
“I’ve always had a sweet tooth.”
“I’ve never been able to control my eating/drinking when I’m out with friends.”
Any of this sound familiar? We constantly define ourselves by who we have been and what we have done. When we do this, our results speak to the narrative we’ve created. The one we believe to be true; to be “who we are.” If you are “always” a certain way, you won’t be another way.
Here’s another truth bomb for you: The “you” you think you are, is the result of patterns that have been established over the course of your life. However, “you” are actually the actions you take, the feelings, and the thoughts you have right now, today, in this moment. If you stop defining yourself by who you have been, and start thinking of yourself as who you are and who you are becoming, the world opens up. You’re no longer trapped in that same script. The opportunities are limitless.
You can have whatever you want for breakfast. You can have a ton of fun out with your friends without drinking alcohol. You can enjoy going to the gym, and look forward to getting up in the morning for your workout. You can go to bed without ice cream and feel totally satisfied. Doesn’t that sound awesome? That’s because it is.
The next step is to practice being who you are going to be.
Just like learning anything new, it takes a lot of practice to come into a new way of being. If you’ve had a scoop of ice cream after dinner every night for the last fifteen years, changing that routine won’t fall into place easily. Think about it this way, you are highly skilled at being the old way, but you don’t have any experience being the new way. You are a beginner, learning a new skill.
You’re going to screw up—a lot—and that’s okay.
Allow yourself to be imperfect. The anxiety, stress, and self-loathing that comes with identifying with whatever went wrong just doesn’t serve you. Instead, allow yourself to roll with your mistakes. Don’t let them get in the way of your next move, and learn from them so you’re better equipped next time. If you miss a session in the gym, don’t waste any time beating yourself up about it. Book the next class you can get into and move forward. Take a second to examine what went wrong, and aim to fix it next time.
Let me know if you have any questions or if you’re ready to get started with a new fitness routine! I’d love to be the one to support you! Call or email anytime to chat about your goals: 503-232-1353 or firstname.lastname@example.org